Here are some ideas for a rainy day. For the days when nothing seems to be going right, for those periods of time when everything seems to be going wrong. How can we maintain mindfulness in the face of difficult times?
Acknowledge The Situation – Stay present, acknowledge that things are challenging right now. Pay attention to your body, to your feelings. In short, don’t abandon yourself during a crisis.
Just Breathe – Focus on your breathing – inhale, exhale. Close your eyes, relax your body. (Pro Tip: do this just a few minutes every day and you’ll be able to draw upon it during difficult situations.)
Daily Practice – During rough times, it’s easier to give up your daily practices – and it’s more important than ever that you don’t.
You usually cook healthy meals, but the stress of the day has you heading for the nearest drive-thru. Resist. Keeping up with daily practices (exercise, meditation, creative endeavors) during times of challenge is another way to be kind to yourself.
Remain Grateful – Gratitude is one of the foundations of joy. Find and acknowledge the small positive things in your life even when everything else has gone to trash.
Get Support – Call on others to help you through sticky situations. Friends and relatives are great. Enlisting the help of a mental health professional or church clergy can give you a fresh perspective and offer healing in a non-judgmental setting.
To freely bloom – that is my definition of success.
How do you define success? I’m sure everyone reading this has a different measure for themselves.
I’ve been thinking more about short-term successes – those small wins that give us a little boost of confidence. If this moment is all we have (and it really is), why do most of us delay gratification by waiting for the One Big Thing that will make us feel successful when there are so many little things throughout our days that pass unrecognized?
Said another way, in the past when I made a small mistake (a typo spotted after an email was sent, a blunder in conversation), I’d spend too much time worrying about it. At the same time, I wasn’t celebrating when I got things exactly right. I’m sure I wasn’t alone in this illogical treatment of myself. Why are we so fast to be negative with ourselves and slow to give ourselves a high-five for things done well?
Let’s start paying attention to the small successes that lead to the One Big Thing. In this moment, my measure of success is to click Publish on this blog post. I’ll cheer myself on by crossing it off today’s To Do List. When I have all five items crossed off my list, I’ll celebrate some more. Go me! #winning
I’m not saying it’s wise to let go of your long-term measures of success – we all need goals. Long-term, I want to have a happy marriage that lasts at least 100 years, I want Brush Dance to experience growth as more people hear our messages of love, peace, and inclusion.
The point is, we should look at the zillions of small achievements we make on the way to our bigger goals and give ourselves a hearty pat on the back. Are you in?