To freely bloom – that is my definition of success.
How do you define success? I’m sure everyone reading this has a different measure for themselves.
I’ve been thinking more about short-term successes – those small wins that give us a little boost of confidence. If this moment is all we have (and it really is), why do most of us delay gratification by waiting for the One Big Thing that will make us feel successful when there are so many little things throughout our days that pass unrecognized?
Said another way, in the past when I made a small mistake (a typo spotted after an email was sent, a blunder in conversation), I’d spend too much time worrying about it. At the same time, I wasn’t celebrating when I got things exactly right. I’m sure I wasn’t alone in this illogical treatment of myself. Why are we so fast to be negative with ourselves and slow to give ourselves a high-five for things done well?
Let’s start paying attention to the small successes that lead to the One Big Thing. In this moment, my measure of success is to click Publish on this blog post. I’ll cheer myself on by crossing it off today’s To Do List. When I have all five items crossed off my list, I’ll celebrate some more. Go me! #winning
I’m not saying it’s wise to let go of your long-term measures of success – we all need goals. Long-term, I want to have a happy marriage that lasts at least 100 years, I want Brush Dance to experience growth as more people hear our messages of love, peace, and inclusion.
The point is, we should look at the zillions of small achievements we make on the way to our bigger goals and give ourselves a hearty pat on the back. Are you in?
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