Here are some ideas for a rainy day. For the days when nothing seems to be going right, for those periods of time when everything seems to be going wrong. How can we maintain mindfulness in the face of difficult times?
Acknowledge The Situation – Stay present, acknowledge that things are challenging right now. Pay attention to your body, to your feelings. In short, don’t abandon yourself during a crisis.
Just Breathe – Focus on your breathing – inhale, exhale. Close your eyes, relax your body. (Pro Tip: do this just a few minutes every day and you’ll be able to draw upon it during difficult situations.)
Daily Practice – During rough times, it’s easier to give up your daily practices – and it’s more important than ever that you don’t.
You usually cook healthy meals, but the stress of the day has you heading for the nearest drive-thru. Resist. Keeping up with daily practices (exercise, meditation, creative endeavors) during times of challenge is another way to be kind to yourself.
Remain Grateful – Gratitude is one of the foundations of joy. Find and acknowledge the small positive things in your life even when everything else has gone to trash.
Get Support – Call on others to help you through sticky situations. Friends and relatives are great. Enlisting the help of a mental health professional or church clergy can give you a fresh perspective and offer healing in a non-judgmental setting.
To love is first of all to accept yourself as you actually are.
Thich Nhat Hanh
Wednesday is Valentine’s Day. I’m proposing that we not only express our love to those important people in our lives, but that we also love ourselves just a little more this week. Let’s work on accepting ourselves as we actually are, shall we?
Overall, we’re pretty self-critical. And why is it that we say things to ourselves that we would never dream of saying to anyone else? Insanity.
“Your thighs are so big. They’re really an embarrassment!”
“You’re not smart enough to be included this conversation.”
“You’re not thin enough to wear that.”
“You’re not enough.”
We could visit all of the places where we receive these messages, but instead let’s focus on letting those old messages go and focus on loving ourselves. It turns out that when we accept and love ourselves more, we are able to accept and love others more deeply, too.
Replace those old messages with new mantras.
My body sustains me.
I am smart in ways that others are not.
I don’t need to fit into a certain body type to be valued.
I am enough!
It’s going to take some time and practice, but we can do it. We can learn to accept ourselves exactly as we are.
To freely bloom – that is my definition of success.
How do you define success? I’m sure everyone reading this has a different measure for themselves.
I’ve been thinking more about short-term successes – those small wins that give us a little boost of confidence. If this moment is all we have (and it really is), why do most of us delay gratification by waiting for the One Big Thing that will make us feel successful when there are so many little things throughout our days that pass unrecognized?
Said another way, in the past when I made a small mistake (a typo spotted after an email was sent, a blunder in conversation), I’d spend too much time worrying about it. At the same time, I wasn’t celebrating when I got things exactly right. I’m sure I wasn’t alone in this illogical treatment of myself. Why are we so fast to be negative with ourselves and slow to give ourselves a high-five for things done well?
Let’s start paying attention to the small successes that lead to the One Big Thing. In this moment, my measure of success is to click Publish on this blog post. I’ll cheer myself on by crossing it off today’s To Do List. When I have all five items crossed off my list, I’ll celebrate some more. Go me! #winning
I’m not saying it’s wise to let go of your long-term measures of success – we all need goals. Long-term, I want to have a happy marriage that lasts at least 100 years, I want Brush Dance to experience growth as more people hear our messages of love, peace, and inclusion.
The point is, we should look at the zillions of small achievements we make on the way to our bigger goals and give ourselves a hearty pat on the back. Are you in?
Need a gentle introduction to becoming more physically fit? We suggest yoga.
And if your goal is to check in on the spiritual part of your life in 2018, we have you covered:
We hope everyone is resolving to be just a little kinder, a bit more gentle, and loving with themselves in 2018. This calendar full of affirmations is just the reminder!
And sipping tea is the perfect act of quiet kindness for yourself:
Brush Dance Wall Calendars are perfect not only for planning events and keeping track of appointments, they also serve as beautiful pieces of art and encouragement for your home or office. We’re also having a sale right now. Quantities of some titles are especially limited. Order today to save big.
Are you glad to say goodbye to 2017? Sorry to see it go? Feeling hopeful for 2018?
The world was a busy place in 2017 – and I’m sure it will be this year, too. I’ve decided to Embrace the Chaos.
Last year, I learned lessons in patience (always a favorite…ha) and discovered that there’s no such thing as perfect (and even if there was, I wouldn’t want it). I re-learned that if we don’t have health, we have nothing. And I remembered that family and good friends is where happiness lives.
Have you made resolutions for 2018? Is that a thing people still do? Rather than resolutions (no more junk food – ever!), I prefer to set intentions (I will do my best to limit junk food). It just feels a little more gentle, yes?
For 2018, Brush Dance has three different styles of Planners. Planners make perfect holiday gifts for busy people who need to keep track of appointments, lists, and more. Right now, all Planners (and everything else) are on sale – save 30%.
Let’s take a look at the three formats we offer . . .
Super-Sturdy Cover with an Elastic Band and Wire-O Binding
One Week Per Spread – Includes Checklists, Notes, and Inspiring Quotes
Yearly and Monthly Planning Pages
Numbered Pages and Index (Handy!!)
Both Lined and Dot Grid Pages – Use for journaling, note taking, project management, lists, and more
This is a serious and easy-to-use, intuitive planner. It’s also the one that most of us at Brush Dance are using. See All Karma Planners
2018 Weekly Planners from Brush Dance measure 5″ x 7″ and are the perfect size to fit into most backpacks and handbags. As with all Brush Dance products, the paper quality is top-notch. These Planners have yearly and monthly reference pages and each 2-page spread features one week. As with the Karma Planner above, Weekly Planners have wire-o binding and an elastic band closure. You can see them all right here.
Finally, for those who need a planner for reference or just a few notes and appointments, we present the Brush Dance 2018 Monthly Planner.
Our Monthly Planners are super-handy and ready to be stashed in bags of nearly any size. Keep one on your desktop for easy planning. At just 32 pages, these books will take you through the beginning of 2020. Each 2-page spread represents one month.
Planners from Brush Dance are perfect holiday gifts and stocking stuffers.
In addition to all of our wonderful Calendars and Planners, we also have a huge assortment of Stocking Stuffers that are perfectly priced for your holiday shopping budget. Let’s explore . . .
Kept Going Pin
Took My Own Advice Pin
We love this collection of Everyday Bravery enamel pins from Emily McDowell Studios. Finally, recognition for the things in our daily lives that require courage. Maybe we should all get one of these as a reminder that we don’t have to please everyone?
Speaking of pins, ACTIVIST is one of my favorites from Seltzer Goods (a brand that is new to Brush Dance). Get one for yourself and one for your BFF because you know you’re on the right side of history.
Think you know your friends and family members? Avoid those awkward silent moments by bringing out a box of 135 questions to keep the conversation going. There’s a Family Edition for all ages, and a Do It Yourself Therapy set for the brave among us. See all Table Topics (we’ve listed some sample questions – making it easier to choose the perfect set for you).